Family Holiday Drama (#829)

For some, the holiday season is the most wonderful time of the year; for others, it can be filled with pain, loneliness, and disappointment especially with all the nostalgic hopes we place on it. However, not all families celebrate with love and graciousness. Some families are riddled with expectations, gossip, and manipulative power games that make them a minefield of pain and judgment. Back from Thanksgiving, Kyle asks Wayne about negotiating the holidays when your family dynamics are destructive and hurtful. Do you owe it to your family to gather with them when they are destructive, or do you have other options? They talk about getting out of the game that requires performance as a condition for love and how to let God lead you by endearment instead of obligation in whatever situation you find yourself.

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  1. I like that you folks gave some good practical ways to deal with unkind family members around the holidays by (1)graciously begging off from visiting that year and saying you can’t make it, (2)creating safe places to talk in your home or wherever you are, and (3)going where you have a sense of endearment instead of being obligated to visit family that can be hurtful. I also like that you folks pointed out that mere religion makes people relationally challenged, because I’ve seen a lot of that sort of thing too.

    Merry Christmas and happy holidays to you folks and your families, bros. Wayne and Kyle.

  2. Lots of good practical advice .. quite dense in that, will need to listen again. I didn’t observe Thanksgiving this year as the history of the origins of this holiday weighed on me … Year after year learning about i I thot to give it a pass this year – covid made it easier.

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